Friday, May 13, 2016

Keeping My Sanity

These first few months with a newborn are exhausting and demanding and at times overwhelming and anyone that tells you differently is blowing smoke up your ass. Toss in an adorable 4 year old and you've really got your work cut out for you....or for me.  There are moments when all is good and I think to myself, I got this then there are other times where I need to step outside take some breaths or scream at the top of my lungs (no one would hear me as we live in the middle of nowhere), maybe shed a few tears then head back inside.

I'm on maternity leave for 3 months and while I love love love spending time with my babies, this is no vacation! I'm not good at staying put, sitting and nursing and sitting and nursing and sitting....I like to go go go.  So these 3 months are challenging for me.  At times, I dream of getting back to our regular routine and getting back to work.

There are few things that I have found that I need to do on a daily basis (if possible) to keep my sanity.  They certainly aren't a cure all and they aren't going to make the baby stop crying and the 4 year old stop tugging on me but it helps me keep a balance.  It's all about balance, right??

Here they are:

1. SHOWER.  I know, I know...the running joke about new moms is that they never have time to shower BUT I need a shower.  I make it happen. Even if it means Townes in his rock n play in the bathroom with a pacifier while Lars 'babysits'.  I get a shower.  Normally, I'm not a huge shower nut. I mean I like a good shower but giving myself 3-5 mins to shower in the morning while in this exhausting newborn stage is essential.  It's not always the most relaxing shower but it wakes me up, washes off the dried spit up and breastmilk and helps wash away that awesome body odor that comes along with breastfeeding and helps me feel somewhat functional. This shower is not a wash your hair, shave your legs, use a sugar scrub shower.  It's a how quickly can I rinse off before someone needs milk, cuddles or breaks something.

2. BRUSH TEETH AND SKIN CARE.  Brushing my teeth is a given. I have to brush my teeth in the morning.  Again, it's about feeling awake and starting the day.  My skin care routine is probably not much of a routine but doing it helps me feel like I'm taking care of myself and helps me feel like I'm sticking to some kind of routine.  I use my clarisonic, apply my face cream and some rosehip oil and call it a day. It's a good start.

3. BREAKFAST.  I'm not usually a big breakfast person (i know i should i be) but while nursing breakfast can't come fast enough.  I try hard to have a good healthy breakfast.  I mean I don't want to start an already exhausting day with sugar and caffeine.  I generally have 2 piece of gluten free toast with avocado and salt pepper or toast with almond butter and strawberries. Then, if I can I'll whip up a good smoothie for Lars and I. That doesn't always happen.

4. KEEPING IN TOUCH.  I'm a super social person and being that I'm currently not enthralled in my social life (mainly work) keeping in touch with friends and family is really important.  Talking to my mom, texting with friends, and even blogging helps me feel connected and social.

5. LOVING ON LARS.  I told Bob the other day that I forgot how boring newborns are.  I mean I love Townes so much and I know how precious this stage is but sometimes I just need to go jump on the trampoline with Lars or swing or play outside or roll around on the floor.  Makes my heart happy.

6. COOKING. The stars don't always align and allow me time to cook dinner.  Most of the time Townes wants to nurse and Lars is needing some love so Bob handles dinner.  I love cooking and dinner is my jam. When things fall into place and I get to cook, it's like my ME time.  I feel normal and productive.

7. WINE AND BEER. Having a glass of wine or a dark beer is necessary. Don't judge! Dark beer is good for my milk supply and wine is good for my sanity.

8. HOT GUY.  Getting some hugs and love from the hot guy that is my baby daddy.  Sometimes I just need a hug...usually in the evenings when I feel like I've had a baby on me all day and I just need a break.  A hug is sometimes the break I need.

9. PICKING UP.  Again, I know what they say.  Don't worry about the pile of laundry or the stack of dishes.  Don't worry about the toys taking over or the crafts that have been out for the past 4 days.  But me sitting in a messy cluttered house is not good for my soul.  Putting a load of laundry on, getting the dishes in the dishwasher, putting away some toys may not be something I Really want to do but I can't sit in clutter and mess. I just can't. I have a lot of help so that's great, but some morning I get up and I can't focus on anything until the living room is somewhat clean and the kitchen doesn't look like a tornado blew through it.

10. EXERCISE. Blah blah blah...I know. I've always exercised and I like to...most of the time.  I feel so much better after stretching and moving my body.  I'm keeping things light still but even just a little yoga, a walk or light weights makes a huge difference.

I'm not claiming that I"m not crazy but finding time to do these few things during the day at least makes me feel like I'm not losing my damn mind.

my first postpartum work out....thank goodness. 

How I spend most of my days and I love it so much. 

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